Anyone else dealing with this alone?

your not stupid and he still has a right to know. its his choice. but its also messed up for him not telling you the truth from the begining. obviously he has no need to be around since he already has a wife and a kid. he has your kid as well. but i think you should ditch him and raise the baby alone. it's not hard, i am a single mother as well. baby's dad phone once every 3-4 months.even though its his kid, he still has a right to be a dad. but personally by the way its sounds, he may love you still and all. but once the wife comes back he's long gone. might as well just get over him and move on with out. the best thing about it is that your looking forward to raising a beautful child. with or with out him. i think your better off. :)